8.18.2005

Love Defined

Love. This oh so elusive term in my life has always been a mystery. I turned to movies to solve my questions and unfortunately wound up lacking. Girls do not actually fall in love with the nerdy sweet guy who is persistent; they do however fall in love with Matthew McConaughey. The illustration of love found in literature from works such as Pride and Prejudice only befuddles me more while music leads me to believe it is some sort of possessive act.

However, over the past thirty days I have seen what love is truly about. And through this demonstration I've also realized its been under my own roof this whole time.

My dad has been the most caring, loving and faithful husband a woman could hope for. Over the past month he has been at the hospital an average of 18-20 hours a day. Not once has he ever came home to sleep in his own bed and rarely does he leave mother's side. He has served her meeting every request with a willingness to bid every entreaty she might put before him. He holds her hand and has told her multiple times, when it looks like her time has finally come, how much he loves her and treasures the time they had together.

Yet this love has been going on not thirty days but for over twenty-nine years. I tried to recollect times when I recalled my mother and father fighting. While I'm sure they had their arguments not a single door was ever slammed nor was either voice ever raised. They spent nearly every evening together at the dinner table laughing, listening and crying while discussing their days. Many vacations were spent exploring the US together as a couple and as a family. And these details are merely the visible, readily accessible memories that I possess. What went on between them is undoubtedly even more special.

If love decides one day not to be so elusive than I hope that I can model my relationship off of my parents. May it be an example of peace, stability, reliability, happiness and joy. Perhaps these aren't movie, book, or song worthy attributes but its what love defined looks like.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

Blake,

That was a beautiful post.

Anonymous said...

I'm crying! That was a much better expresion of love than most "entertainment" I have heard in my whole lifetime. Real love is so much better than movies and love songs because it can last for the long term, not just a fleeting 5 minutes or two hours. It is better because it IS real, not elusive, not deceptive, not fleeting. It's better because we have to work for it, not pay for it.
My parents are different. They argue and huff at each other, but they have never given up on each other. that's really the hard work of love..not giving up on people.
LB

kteachjoy said...

What a blessing for you - to have been able to witness this selflessness. I see the same thing in my parents by the way mom has been dad's constant caretaker for the past eleven years (nearly a third of their marriage!!!).

Mark and Kelly said...

Blake,
I've never been moved to tears by a blog entry before! What a blessing that you're able to witness that love day after day during this painful time. Thanks for your honesty and sharing that with us. Kelly

Court said...

I'll join in and say that your post brought tears to my eyes, Blake. Thank you for sharing a little piece of your family's love with all of us out here.

I also wanted to let you know that the Christians in Chemnitz, Germany, are praying for you and your family.